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Queer Finance 101: Ten Ways That Sexual and Gender Identity Affect Finances


Gay rights.

That thing we don’t have to do anymore because they’re finally getting married!

Hold on please, my producer is speaking into my earpiece… Okay, my producer is saying that evidently legal integration into the institution of marriage is actually not the final and defining achievement of queerdom.

Our clear-eyed, big-hearted Patreon donors have requested an article on how queerness affects people’s finances. It’s good timing because I just finished watching The Haunting of Hill House and I’ve never felt bi-er! (And yes, before you ask, my official order is Theo > Shirley > Luke > Nell > dead kitten > Steven.)

I am ready and raring to accept my crown as queer queen of bummer-ass articles!

Note: Throughout this article, I will use the word “queer” to encompass all people who are not both cisgender and heterosexual. I’ll talk a lot about gay people and trans people specifically because those are the populations that usually have all the good scientific studies and economic surveys to shellac my ramblings with a gorgeous patina of Facts.

But we love all you aces, aros, bis, enbies, pans, polys, intersex individuals, questioners, queens, and whatever the hell other gender and sexual minorities I left out.

How does queerness affect one’s finances?

Social isolation

Earlier this year one of my best friends texted me, asking me for a recommendation on a pringender ter for his wedding programs.

“I thought you printed those months ago!” I said.

“We did,” he told me. “I got a letter in the mail yesterday. My parents said that they prayed on it, and they decided not to come after all. So I need to take their names off.”

For my readers who have a good relationship with their parents, I really want you to imagine what it would feel like to receive a Dear John letter from them, saying they didn’t want to come watch you get married.

For my readers who are parents themselves—is there any circumstance in which you can imagine telling your child this? Think of your son standing alone, watching his husband dance with his own mother, knowing you chose not to be there to dance with him. Who could endure that? I’d rather dig my own heart out of my chest with a child’s plastic sand shovel.

Social isolation is the root issue of the financial struggles queer people face. Your family is your first and most important safety net. Your next is your community—your church, your school, your workplace. When these nets chuck you out, there’s nowhere to land but the cold, hard ground.

Queer people are big on the idea of “chosen families”—a mix of related or unrelated people who repair each other’s broken safety nets. Chosen families rock, but it can take you your twenties, thirties, and beyond to create them. And they’re often comprised of other queer people, who have the same instabilities as the rest of the community.


40% of homeless youths in America are queer. This is an especially staggering fact when you consider that queer people only make up about 4% of the total population.

A more recent study estimated that queer youths are 120 times more likely to experience homelessness than their straight, cisgender peers. The problem isn’t unique to young people. Queer parents are three times more likely than straight, cisgender parents to be homeless themselves.

The long-term effects of homelessness are significant. The instability and insecurity can lead to serious trauma, lower grades, poorer health, and lower lifetime earnings. All of these stats are worse for queer people of color than for white queer people.

Queer people tend to gravitate to coasts and large cities, which are generally more accepting. But cities and coasts have much higher costs of living. This, along with other factors, makes it difficult for queer people to accumulate wealth.


Queer people are overrepresented in America’s criminal justice system.

One study found that young people with same-sex attractions are more likely to be stopped by police, expelled from school, arrested, and convicted. 20% of people in juvenile facilities identify as queer.

The two biggest areas of challenge for queer people in the criminal justice system are discriminatory legal proceedings before conviction and inhumane treatment after it.

For example, 21% of trans women and 10% of trans men will spend time behind bars at some point in their life. 5% of straight, cisgender people can say the same. Once incarcerated, they are often denied continuation of hormone therapy and other medical treatment. Assault is common, and many prisons don’t have adequate policies for addressing it.

Queer people are also less likely to be bailed out of jail. And they receive less support afterwards, including some key areas like post-release housing. Again, all of these stats are worse for queer people of color than for white queer people.

Workplace discrimination

Sexual orientation can influence career choice. Researchers think queer people gravitate toward jobs with a high amount of task independence and social perception skills. This is likely a social adaptation in response to discrimination.

There is some truth to this stereotype: gay men are statistically more likely to gravitate toward traditionally feminine jobs. (The top three are flight attendant, hairdresser, and nurse practitioner.)

Heterosexual men in traditionally feminine jobs were rated as less effectual and less worthy of respect. This is reflected in the fact that nurses have the lowest gender pay discrepancy of any job—female nurses earn 99.63% of what male nurses earn. (Remember too that traditionally feminine jobs are generally lower-paying. For this reason, a female same-sex couple is more likely to be poor than a male same-sex couple.)

Men who “sound gay” are less likely to be hired and promoted on the basis of their voice alone. LGBT indicators on a lesbian woman’s application make potential employers 30% less likely to call her.

The lack of clear and consistent applications of anti-discrimination laws make fighting back logistically difficult, emotionally exhausting, socially dangerous, and financially draining.


The queer community faces unique health challenges, which are greatly exacerbated by lower rates of employment and health insurance. 38% of queer people lack access to a routine annual physical.

Queer people are more likely to experience a range of mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, substance abuse, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts.

Suicide is a serious problem among queer people. Queer children are five times as likely to commit suicide. Their attempts are more serious, resulting in more instance of severe injury and a genuine wish to die.

Piggy grew up with a young gay man who was constantly bullied in high school, by his classmates and his family. At the age of twenty, he attempted suicide. He is now a paraplegic as a result.

41% of trans people attempt suicide at some point in their lives, compared to 4% of Americans overall. 92% of those suicide attempts happen when they are still children. You were saying something about bathrooms?

Queer populations have the highest rates of tobacco, alcohol, and drug abuse. They are also more likely to be disabled.

Brittany Charlton of Harvard University’s T. H. Chan School of Public Health, had this insight to share about her research:

“Most of the study participants were white and their families had middle-to-high household incomes. It is striking that these sexual orientation disparities are pervasive among participants who predominantly hold high social status. Given this high social status we may have underestimated levels of unemployment, being uninsured, and having poor health-related quality of life.”

Men who have sex with men are still banned from donating blood (and selling blood plasma, one of the best known options for a desperate person to safely make quick cash).


We humans rely on a broad network of social institutions to provide community support and a sense of psychological and physical safety. But some social institutions we rely on to protect people actively hurt queer people.

One survey found that highly religious heterosexual youths were 17% less likely to attempt suicide. For queer people, the effect was -38%. That is, religiosity makes suicide much more likely. This was particularly striking among women. A highly religious young lesbian is 52% more likely to have suicidal thoughts.

According to the Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion, the strongest predictor of who commits violence against a queer individual is religious fundamentalism.


When a citizen picks up the phone to call for help, we expect police to respond to all citizens equally. Unfortunately, the implicit and explicit biases of individuals and institutions mean police can respond very differently depending on who is on the other end of that phone call.

A study by Lambda Legal found a range of unacceptable behaviors when police engage with queer people. These included both misconduct (like hostility and harassment) and insufficient responses to a range of complaints (like intimate partner violence and physical assault).

Police responses tended to be most inadequate when dealing with queer people of color, disabled queer people, low income queer people, gender nonconforming queer people, and HIV-positive queer people.


Queer students face greater instances of bullying, discrimination, harassment, and violence in schools.

You don’t have to look far to find queer kids with horror stories about school. Your humble writer remembers an incident from her high school days: sixteen years old, running from a bully, hiding inside the girl’s bathroom. He followed me inside, banging on the stall door, promising that I would be straight if I only sucked his cock. He tried to shimmy underneath the stall door. His friends stood guard outside. It was after hours at my school. No one could hear me screaming.

That was one of the scarier moments in my life. But in the grand scheme of experiences queer kids have growing up, it’s pretty normal—maybe even mild. My school administrators did nothing, and that’s pretty common too. 85% of queer kids experience verbal harassment; 27% physical harassment.

Compared to other social institutions, schools are responding relatively quickly. But policies on bullying vary considerably from state to state and school to school. At time of writing, eight states restrict teachers from discussing LGBT issues of any kind.


There are many areas of the world where queer people cannot safely travel. Queer travelers can face beatings, prison time, and even execution. These places exist all over the world: North America (Jamaica), Central America (Belize, Honduras), Europe (Russia), Southeast Asia (Malaysia), Africa (Nigeria, Uganda), and the Middle East (Egypt, Saudi Arabia), to name a few.

Queer Americans need to be cautious when traveling through parts of their own country. The FBI prosecutes more than a thousand hate crimes against queer people every year, right here in America. I know many queer people who’ve designed circuitous road trip routes to avoid areas where they don’t feel safe.

Queerness adds a layer of desperation to fears of deportation for immigrants. And ICE does not have a good track record of dealing with queer people, to put it mildly.


Sexual orientation is the third highest motivator for hate crimes. The first is race, followed by religion, both of which have orders of magnitude greater instances within the general population.

FBI hate crime statistics show that the most common place for queer people to have a hate crime committed against them is inside private residences. That means that people are intimidated, assaulted, raped, and killed inside their own homesor in the home of someone trusted enough to enter.

So what are some solutions?

I just threw ten very big, very sad problems at you. So now I want to talk about ten potential solutions. As an added bonus, many of these benefit more than just the queer community!

A solution for social isolation: be intolerant of intolerance

This is the most important one.

I firmly believe that the reason gay rights have progressed very quickly relative to other civil rights movements is because queer people exist across all ethnicities, classes, genders, and religions. Queer people have many diverse and passionate supporters. And they’re embedded across every conceivable social group.

I strongly believe in the power of social pressure to shame bigots. Every time someone says something judgmental or homophobic or transphobic in your hearing, it is a test. You seem like the kind of person who will agree with me—or at least you seem like you won’t fight me on it. So go ahead and disavow them of that notion.

Practice. “I don’t find that funny. I don’t agree. That word is unacceptable. Don’t say things like that in front of me again.”

Contribute to a culture where people with hate inside themselves are nervous to open their mouths and let it out.

A solution for homelessness: be a safe place

My house is known by the nickname “The Home for Wayward Queers.” This is because I’ve periodically opened my home to friends and strangers who needed a place to stay.

Why do this? Well, somebody did it for me once. I moved out of my mother’s house at sixteen. A friend’s parents offered me their son’s room while he was away at college. My little brother did the same, moving in with a different family. We definitely weren’t kicked out, and it definitely wasn’t because of our sexual orientations. It had more to do with erecting boundaries and establishing our own senses of self. And sexual orientation was part of that general process.

If you know a any person  person who’s struggling, and it’s within your power to offer them safety and security, please do it. That goes double for queer people, and quadruple for younglings.

A solution for incarceration: raise the minimum wage

We’ve talked before about why raising the minimum wage is a no-brainer.

Research suggests that raising the federal minimum wage to $15 an hour would reduce LGBT poverty by one third (for male same-sex couples) to one half (for female same-sex couples). Almost 30,000 people in same-sex couples would rise above the federal poverty level.

The federal government has been slow to act on this, so individual states and cities are forging ahead. Support these efforts by voting for them, and don’t let companies scare you into doing otherwise.

Of course, alleviating poverty is only one piece of the puzzle in fixing our remarkably unjust justice system.

A solution for workplace discrimination: be transparent about your salary

Gender is still a big component of the spectrum of queer discrimination. This is our favorite hot tip for fighting gender-based pay discrimination: tell other people how much money you make. Especially people who have a history of being underpaid: women, queer people, disabled people, and people of color.

You can read all about how (and why) to do this here:

A solution for healthcare: define healthcare as a basic human right

Sigh… our healthcare system is a shit show.

No one who lives in a stable, wealthy country like America should have to forego medical treatment because they’re afraid of what the final bill will be. But here we are.

Tying healthcare to employment sets a truly terrible precedent. I don’t think our readers need to hear me say this, but I’ll say it anyway: what is valuable about human life isn’t its ability to create wealth or utility. Poor people, disabled people, and unemployed and underemployed people all deserve equal access to affordable healthcare.

Vote for people who aren’t afraid to keep trying.

More articles on our royally fucked up healthcare system:

A solution for religion: don’t give your money to religious institutions that demean queer people

This one’s pretty simple.

You know if your church/mosque/temple sucks.

Sure, your church is great. Your pastor is a lady! And your choir director is a gay dude! I believe you!

You can believe whatever you want to, pray however you want to, attend whatever place of worship you want to. But when that collection plate gets passed around, don’t you put a fucking red cent in there if there’s a chance it could be used to write self-hatred into the hearts of queer people.

The number of religious lobbyists has quintupled since 1970. Exerting religious influence on American public policy is a multi-million dollar industry. Be absolutely certain that yours isn’t one of many religious institutions that claims to love queer people, but spends its donations diminishing their legal personhood.

A solution for policing: telegraph support

Adults can sometimes guess that a child is queer long before the child understands it themselves. You should never attempt to explain their queerness to them prematurely. Let them figure it out, for Anderson Cooper’s sake!

But you can defend queer people in front of them. You can stand up to bullies in front of them. Especially if those bullies are other adults. They’ll see that not every adult thinks the same way. And they’ll remember that you’re a safe person to talk to.

Not all queer adults are comfortable being out, either. That’s especially true in the workplace, where less than half of queer people are out. Less than half! Again, don’t be too direct—you run the risk of misconstruing, making the person feel pressured, or painfully reminding them that they’re not “passing.” The easiest way to let someone know you’re an ally is through low-key, mundane discussions about the news, or family, or people you know. Let it be natural, but leave the person no doubt that you stand with them.

A solution for schooling: encourage open discussion of sex and gender in schools

Not everyone votes in their local elections—especially if it doesn’t fall during a general election. But choosing who sits on your local school board has an incredible impact on the kind of curriculum children in the community end up learning.

If you want kids to learn about queer history, gender theory, and medically accurate sexual education in public schools, you need to vote for administrators who share that value.

If you send your kid to private school, you have even more direct access to influence the curriculum. You are their customer. Ask for what you want, get other parents on board, and make yourselves heard.

Are you noticing a theme here? Voting is hella important!

A solution for travel discrimination: vote in favor of more rights and protections for queer people

Massachusetts is the most progressive state in the nation. Yet they have a ballot initiative that would strip transgender people of legal protections against discrimination. And the referendum is polling much too close for comfort.

This angers me. It makes me so ashamed. We’re better than this.

The rights of gay people, trans people, and women have been taking a healthy pummeling in the recent past. The Trump administration fired all members of the Presidential Advisory Council on HIV/AIDS, attempted to ban trans people from serving in the military, and removed all mention of gender from the key UN human rights documents.

I’m pretty sure that a lot of the people who voted for this administration knew that was what they were signing up for. Which is a bummer so massive it’s given half the country a two-year existential crisis. But what has been done can be undone. When you have the opportunity to vote, please vote for Not That.

A solution for violence: educate yourself about other people’s struggles

While I was at FinCon, I overheard a man confidently proclaim that politics are irrelevant to finances. I think he meant it in the spirit of “I can be friends with people whose politics I don’t agree with,” but I still told him to fuck right up out of here with that noise. While drinking box wine. In a pool. Because I’m a classy feminist killjoy.

I know this dude—whose name I don’t remember because wine—wasn’t trying to be mean. He was actually trying to express his expansiveness. But it was also an embarrassing and inexcusably ignorant thing for a grown up person to say.

Cisgender people’s political opinions on healthcare can make or break a trans person’s finances

The average trans person of color makes less than $10,000 per year, but gender therapy can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars. When people can’t afford the medical care they need, they either live sick or they die. I spent so many minutes trying to rewrite that last sentence in a way that sounded less dire. I couldn’t.

Straight people’s political opinions on discrimination can make or break a gay person’s finances

Although I disagree with the notion that productivity is the best means of measuring human performance, a World Bank report posits that anti-LGBT discrimination costs a nation 1% of its GDP per year. (1% of 20 trillion dollars is a whole lot of fucking money.) Weak protections force LGBT youth to drop out of school, work lower paying jobs, pay more for healthcare, and contribute less to society.

Men’s political opinions on abortion can make or break a woman’s finances

If I’m one of the 9% of women every year whose oral birth control fails and results in pregnancy, and I live in an area where abortion has been regulated out of existence, I could be stuck raising a child who will cost me a quarter million dollars over my lifetime.

If you think your political opinions don’t affect real people’s lives, you might live in a bubble

And you might want to fix that. It’s super easy to do! There’s this amazing thing called Google. It’s like Ask Jeeves, but there’s no Jeeves! You just punch random words into it like “how expensive is it to be trans” or “what’s the lifetime cost of discrimination” or “how much money does it take to raise a child” and it magically gives you answers.

There has never been a time in human history when it was easier to find and listen to other people’s stories. Summon the diligence to learn about the ways that your opinions can help or harm them, and I promise you will never regret having spent those precious fucks.

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Our Patreon donors are the only ones who deserve Theo. Maybe even no-gloves Theo…

The rest of us are Stevens. Greasy, unworthy Stevens.

17 thoughts to “Queer Finance 101: Ten Ways That Sexual and Gender Identity Affect Finances”

  1. Damn. My pastor is a lady. And the pianist is a lesbian (and the mom of someone I grew up with, yay). But I digress.

    “For my readers who are parents themselves—is there any circumstance in which you can imagine telling your child this? Think of your son standing alone, watching his husband dance with his own mother, knowing you chose not to be there to dance with him. Who could endure that? I’d rather dig my own heart out of my chest with a child’s plastic sand shovel.”

    This. And all of this that you’ve written here. I for one am in a white heterosexual marriage and have only had the slightest experience personally from before that point, but I grew up playing a sport where a huge percentage of my friends from that time are lesbian and I can name at least one for every single type of example you gave here, and that’s in one of those left-leaning coastal areas. I can imagine it is 100000x worse in other areas.

    As a mom, I’ve been very careful around my son to make sure my language always allows for him to make his own decisions later in life and am always correcting the narrative of the “lovely lady” he will marry / date / etc. when he’s older. I hope that by the time he does show interest in someone romantically (or doesn’t) he and his friends all know that our house is a safe place and one of love, no matter what. I just hope I’m making that clear enough to him that it will carry through.

  2. “Queer people tend to gravitate to coasts and large cities, which are generally more accepting. But cities and coasts have much higher costs of living. This, along with other factors, makes it difficult for queer people to accumulate wealth.”

    That right there is why I won’t be moving to one of those mythical ‘low cost of living’ cities so many FIRE bloggers praise. Sorry, personal safety & being my authentic self come first, even if it means 60% of my budget goes to housing.

    1. PREACH. Every time my husband is like “let’s move to rural Utah or Montana, it’s so pretty” I’m like “no thank you I need my people.”

      1. My partner and I are going through this right now. We live in semi-rural SC. While our professional lives are banging (no really, we’ve got amazing jobs), it sucks that we can’t hold hands when we walk downtown. We have to drive 30 minutes to the local town-town to even go on a date, but even then, most of the time, I introduce them as “my roommate.” So while we may be saving $600/mo on living expenses, we’re spending extra to get away (where we feel safer) or go to counseling/therapy because of endless anxiety driven by lack of social support/outright rejection.

  3. The church my partner and I attend recently married two women. Many members left because of it, which is very sad. I hope my church becomes a beacon for all queer and nonqueer alike. I have to admit I worry a bit about shaming people who make negative comments towards LGBTQ+ people. I think that curiosity and honest conversation would be more effective in helping people change. I know you two are very thoughtful though so I wonder if you’d be willing to talk about why it is useful to call people out in blunt/ not-especially-kind ways?

    1. That is simultaneously wonderful and heartbreaking. I hope those who left think seriously about why they did so and find their way back to what is clearly a radically welcoming and supportive community.

      I’m not queer, but I have two family members and many friends who are. For me, I try to meet people where they’re coming from. I had a trans friend attend my wedding, and afterwards a few people were like, “So… that person…” with genuine confusion and gentle curiosity. For those questioners, I was happy to explain gender identity and answer any awkward questions they had. I see this as my responsibility in the hopes that the next time those questioners run into a transgender person, they don’t ask THEM the awkward questions and make them feel uncomfortable.

      But if someone comes into my home (or really, a 10 foot radius of me) and starts using homophobic slurs or making inappropriate jokes I shut it down immediately with “We do NOT use those words. Were you raised by fucking Nazis? Dafuq is wrong with you?” Because they comment thoughtlessly, I’m ok correcting them harshly. If their knee-jerk reaction is to be an asshole, they should see a knee-jerk refusal to accept their assholeishness.

  4. You guys way, way, WAY over simplified the solution to the incarceration point. Incarceration is a highly complex issue that can’t just be magically solved with a higher minimum wage. That can be part of the solution but what about prejudices of the judge/jury/prosecutors? Are you seriously trying to tell me that that doesn’t have an impact on incarceration rates or that the minimum wage would somehow make those biases magically disappear? You didn’t even discuss the elephant in the room (the unjust justice system) although the justice system is the one that has the authority to incarcerate people. Or what about factors such as poor schooling, bad parents, lack of mental health options, how a queer person might be using self defense but still found guilty, etc…. All of those factors have significant effects of incarcerations and none of them would be significantly impacted just by raising the minimum wage. There are I don’t know how many studies that have been done on what causes a disproportionate incarcerations of marginalized groups. While income is a factor, the unjust justice system is usually a greater factor since even if you adjust for income, you still get higher numbers of incarcerations. If income was the magical solution, the numbers adjusted for income would be the same. I get it. You guys love the minimum wage argument. But just because you love it, doesn’t mean that you should use it instead of discussing a more intelligent and comprehensive solution to a highly complex issue, which just can’t be adequately addressed with that one phrase. If anything, it makes you sound like you guys don’t understand the complexity of the issue, are being lazy with it, and are addresssing it similarly to how Trump makes policy proposals in his speeches (with one simple, over generalized, poorly researched solution, which might or might not be related to the problem but that his followers like because it “sounds good”. No thought to nuance given).

    1. Hi friend. We’re really glad you brought this up. You’re right: it is more complicated than just helping to alleviate poverty by raising the minimum wage. We discussed a lot of these issues about the unjust “justice system” here:

      Not every post here at BGR can do all things all the time, but we could’ve done better here. I’m going to go back into the article and add a link to our article on the justice system by way of background reading. And we’ll do some more research on policies to help alleviate prejudice in the justice system so we can incorporate that into future articles as well.

  5. Bullying is unfortunately such a common thing, and there should be no tolerance for it, ever. When I was in middle school, I was bullied relentlessly by the “cool girls” because I was smart and liked to read. They mostly laid off in high school because I was boring and had no reaction, although being nominated for senior home coming court as a joke was quite a shock. I was visiting my parents 6 years after graduating high school and ran into one of the girls at the local Starbucks. I shared that I was selling my house and that my puppy and I were moving to Florida for a new job. She looked shocked (“You own a house?” “Yes, I’m selling it”) and was still living in her parents basement, had gained serious weight, and was refereeing the local kids sports teams, with no real plans or ambitions. On the one hand, it was extremely validating to see that I clearly had my stuff together and made solid moves and actually made something of myself, regardless of what the shallow bullies said or did. On the other hand, I don’t take joy in other people not succeeding, and so I feel disappointed for her, because compassion. As I get further and further from middle and high school, unfortunately the colorful memories are the experiences where I was a target, while the rest is slowly fading. Shit like that sticks with you. People just don’t think. It’s a horrible thing to experience, and there is no reason for it.

  6. Thank you for this. All of it. I could write an entire post here in the comments, but I’ll pick out the things that struck me the most (personally).

    “For my readers who are parents themselves—is there any circumstance in which you can imagine telling your child this? Think of your son standing alone, watching his husband dance with his own mother, knowing you chose not to be there to dance with him. Who could endure that?”

    As the mom of a young transgender man (15yo), I cannot fathom how any parent could do this – or worse – to their own child. It breaks my heart when I hear stories of parents who, when they discover their child is queer, disown them or degrade them or otherwise abandon them.

    Thing is, when this happens, parents could easily be making a life or death decision. Without the support they need, as you mention, suicide or dying homeless on the streets is a clear and present danger, especially for queer youth.

    The issues you cover here scare me – for my child and others in the LGBTQ+ community. But I have hope. And I appreciate you putting this information out there – with your suggested solutions to boot.

    And your point here is soooooo important: “There has never been a time in human history when it was easier to find and listen to other people’s stories.”

    What we’re doing as a family is sharing our story. My son is the first transgender teen to come out in his high school (small town Midwest) – 5 others have come out since. He’s not only forging a path, but he’s changing hearts and minds along the way. As the parents of a transgender teen, we have the chance to share what it’s like to help a child transition, the differences in mental health before and after transition, and the vital need for familial and community support (and sooooo much more).

  7. In the state of New Jersey, they are having their first trans awareness week ever. It aligns with the transgender day of remembrance. I just went to a speaker who was talking about trans youth and the issues facing them. I also got a book about it. Also I am a bisexual nonbinary person. So yeah. That’s pretty much it.

  8. I would add, under the heading of workplace discrimination, that older queer people have been discriminated for a much greater proportion of their lives and under evolving laws that- while “generally” queer-friendlier today- were decidedly and openly hostile as little as 40 years ago.

    I finished reading Robert Fieseler’s “Tinderbox”, a book about the events surrounding the Upstairs Lounge fire and our response to it. And my biggest takeaway wasn’t the lack of reverence in the general community to the biggest crime against queer people before Orlando (although that disregard for queer lives certainly happened).

    It was that many did not come forward with what they knew about the possible arson-related nature of the fire, or even acknowledge they knew anything about the Upstairs Lounge. To show any signs of mourning in the workplace was the risk being fired from that workplace. To tell the police about a suspicious thing you heard another patron say about starting a fire was to risk being dishonorably discharged from the military. To be a criminalized person was to mean being unable to admit when you are a victim of a crime (HINT! This relates to a certain other criminalized population today that feels it cannot safely turn to the police).

    Living in a more liberal tri-state area, I have never had to reckon with the possibility that being outed as gay could cost me a job opportunity. On the contrary, when asked why I wish to work for nonprofits, I can openly say so and speak from the heart about how I owe a lot of my freedoms to the social sector. Being discriminated for this reason is unimaginable to me. But it happened to a lot of our baby boomers. And, as a result, they have gone through their entire levels being able to build less wealth than their heteronormative counterparts.

    I’ve read a couple of entries so far on “Bitches Get Rich” and I think I will be a repeat offender. These bloggers know the struggle!

  9. Trans people who are also on hrt are not allowed to donate blood (this is from the Red Cross so idk if this applies to plasma donation)

  10. Blood donation standards have been significantly updated in the past couple of years (in the U.S). Having sex with another man, or having sex with a man who has been with other men (i.e. a cis/het woman involved with someone who has been in such a situation) is now a one year deferment on giving blood. ( for a similar example, there is also a one year defernent after getting a tattoo). HRT or the hormone treatments, on their own, is not a deferment. It’s always ok to ask about updates to blood donation standards, (these are always undergoing slight modifications) and the standards in the U.S, are always set by the FDA. They don’t vary by state or organization.

  11. Don’t forget that in many (all?) states, we have to pay the expense and go through the hassle of adopting our own babies that our partner – married or not – happened to carry.

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